Fear

Fear is a response to the life threatening situation. When we were living in jungle wild animals caused us fear.

You saw tiger, you fear. Your small brain activates defence mechanisms. Your heart started pumping twice more than usual. Your hands and legs get ready for action. Your brain grasp the situation and takes decision, fight or run.

In civilization process fear shifted from tiger to other tribal people. Slowly slowly fear settled down in the form of social norms. Breaking social norms cause punishment which is itself life threatening because man is a social animal. He can’t live alone. In modern society there is a revolution of social norms. It is reducing fear of breaking social norms.

Yet we have fear. We fear of losing our status, losing our name, losing our identity, losing fame, losing money, losing love, losing emotional security. When we feared by tiger, tiger was real. When we feared by boycotting, as we can’t live alone that was also real. But status, name, identity etc. are psychological terms.

They are not real. But our fear response is real. Our body reactions are same. 24×7 we are experiencing this activation of our small brain and preparing defence mechanisms. Our body & mind can’t tolerate this STRESS.

Get rid of it. You are fighting with the monsters witch does not exist !

THINK .

Instead of this imagenary war start fearing of not hearing to your Inner Voice. If you listen to your inner voice you can make better choices in your life.

You can overcome suspect which is destroying your relations. You can get rid of jealousy and hate which promotes war. You can understand meaninglessness of the materialistic world; and you will start your journey of Eternal Joy .

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Empathy

Empathy : The ability to understand and share the feelings of another. We see this definition in dictionary. Why we feel that we see this ability only in dictionary ? Is empathy became a super natural trait ?

Earth is crowded by human beings. Yet we always feel that nobody can understand me. Parents & Children, Teachers & Students, Employers & Employees . . . . list can include every relation. Without empathy we are continuing every relation. We get used to it. If someone shows empathy, we doubt. In today’s world without personal interest nobody shows empathy. People are using empathy as a tool. So we doubt. We don’t want to open up. We live reserved in our shells.

We can’t trust. We can’t live transparent. Without trust we are carrying our relationship. Lack of transparency again gives arouse to doubts. Our mind can’t tolerate the burden. We rush to counsellor. To get listed we pay ! ! This is real tragedy of human culture !

Are you wrong man in . . . . .

A wrong man in worker’s paradise, is a story of an artist who can not fit in the world of utility . He is unfit because his art has no money value. He says my art gives me Joy. But joy and art is a waste of time in a money making world. All the members of that world work mechanically, every day. There is no change in their routine. Artist can not understand this and they can not understand his wasting time on art.

In school when you hate studies you identify to the story strongly. You feel you are a wrong man in the school !

Real tragedy occurs when you start earning and feels that you are a wrong man in your profession. But you afraid to express this. Because you know nobody can understand what is lacking.

You have money, you have status, you have family, you have nice house, you have holidays, you have enjoyment of all the materialistic things.

But something inside you always knocks. Attracts you towards something.

Something which you had buried in depth years ago. You get emotional. You feel uneasy in your chest. You don’t want that pain. You don’t want that urge. You don’t want to be diverted.

You grab your attention to your duties. You debate with yourself about right and wrong. You surrender to the reality.

Reality . . . . . reality which don’t give you choice. Choice of hearing your inner voice. You go to work and perform mechanically. You feel tired. Suddenly you get a thought, what if had followed my passion ? I never feel tired for that ! Next second your brain shows you a sign of danger. Nobody does that ! That is not assured !! Way to passion is full of uncertainty !!! Don’t go. It’s like, in ancient times people warns youngsters, don’t cross the sea there are demons.

You feel miserable ! You feel, part of your self is missing ! You wander in search of happiness . You go to parties with friends but can’t enjoy ! You atten family functions with relatives but feels lonely ! You go for shopping and can’t find any interesting thing ! You go to worship place but can’t find peace !

Again you go to work and feels more miserable ! Situation becomes unbearable !! You can’t handle it any more !!! Your heart cries for rebel !

Now you have choice. Can you choose ? You need only daring. And you dare to choose your inner voice. You decide not to listen to your brain. Though you don’t have any plan you trust that God will take care of everything. First time you surrender to that ultimate power. You start following your path.

Now you don’t fear. You don’t worry. You don’t bother. You just live with your true self. And your inner treasure unlocks. You experience Joy. You experience peace.

Now you are no more wrong man in . . . . . .

Bow, Arrow, Target & You

Do you read ‘Alchemist ‘ by Paulo Coelho. It’s a magical book. I say magical because in that book many things are unrealistic.

For example : You see this wall. But this is not wall. You can touch it. But that is not real. If you believe this you can go through it !

Some years back I read this. I couldn’t understand a word. How can we go through the wall just by believing ? How can law of science can be ignored ? But that only Paulo is saying, “Believe ” and you can ! I really don’t understand.

Each time when I read Paulo’s book I experience same. He always writes mysterious things which never fit in logic. Fairy tales also has magical things but Paulo writes beyond that. I stressed my brain. Try to find out, what is this ? But failed. Many times it turned into frustration. Why can’t I understand this ???

Another example is of ‘bow arrow and target’. In my childhood I read a story of Arjun from Mahabharat. It is about the lesson of concentration. When Arjun’s Guru (Teacher) Dronacharya asked all pupils, what they can see ? Many said many things. They can see tree, sky, birds, leafs and wooden parrot (that was target ) . Only Arjun said that he can see only parrot’s eye. Dronacharya get pleased with his answer and allow him to shoot. I can understand this. Concentration on the target. We can do this. But Paulo says bow, arrow and target should become one. Ok, next level of concentration; can try to understand. Full concentration. Paulo puts concentration on next level. He says bow, arrow, target & you should become one. What’s this ? I couldn’t understand. How can it be possible ? I just laughed. Laughing is better than frustrating !

After some years I was in dance class. I was enjoying. Full concentration on steps. Then slowly something started, I don’t have to think about steps. That were done automatically. Rhythm and steps were synchronising. Now I was not enjoying. I was experiencing Joy ! Because now Dance & I are not two things. There was oneness ! And I realised what is bow, arrow, target & you becoming one !

I take another Paulo’s book. Again same experience. Many magical things which you can not understand. But now I don’t get frustrated neither I laugh. I make a wish, someday I will be able to understand this.

Love you Paulo !

The Different

I was watching my favourite reality show. That day’s the guest was world famous personality. Host welcomes him. Show continues in its style. All are enjoying. At one point the guest says that his girlfriend is here in the audience. Camera shows her close-up. A young lady with very nice smile. The guest tells that she was a beauty contest winner of their country. Camera shows close-up of host. He is just seeing . He doesn’t comment. Nothing. Show continues with the guest.

I was surprised by the behaviour of that host. The host was famous for flirting with female guests and praising their beauty. Off course all that is script of the show. Nothing personal. But he can’t say a word for that Beauty Queen. Why ? She was from totally different race. Her physical features were not matching with his cultural concepts of Beauty. His brain can’t accept her as beautiful. His brain can’t find any word to praise her. He couldn’t even follow the formality of greeting her. Nothing. I feel sorry for him. One of the most talented anchor – actor behave as a very ordinary person.

Remember the famous story of Ugly Duckling by Hans Christian Andersen. Other ducklings tease him as ugly. He develops complex and floats lonely. Become depressed until he discovers that he is a Swan ! In childhood I felt that Swan baby looks ugly. That’s why other ducklings tease him as ugly. But that is not the reality. All the ducklings look same. And Swan baby didn’t look like duckling. He looks different. Because he is a Swan. That’s all ! But ducklings don’t understand this. They think as he doesn’t look like them he is Ugly.

Off course animals and birds did not think. And that’s good ! We, human beings can think. And what’s good in that ? If you can’t understand Different. If we can’t accept the variations of nature.

Animal can show love for other species. We all grow up by hearing the story of cuckoo lay eggs in crow’s nest. And crow nourishes cuckoo’s babies with her babies. There are many real stories of caring and friendship between different species animals. Animals are learning to adjust their surroundings. In your house Dog and Cat can be friends. Cat and Bird can be friends. I saw a video where Mouse and Cat were eating in same pot !

And we human beings considers ourselves as highly intelligent in all species of this planet, can’t even understand the meaning of Different.

We are living in cosmopolitan world. People from different parts of the world travel, take jobs, settle down in different parts of the world. We are becoming used to meet people of different community, language, race, culture. When we will learn to respect the Different ?

All the hatred, fights, wars comes from intolerance. Not accepting the Different.

Think . . .

Accept . . .

Love !

Innocence

Watch slipping baby. Quietly ! She has no worries. Relaxed ! She has no tension. Peacefully ! She has no fear. Baby smiles in sleep. Grandma says, she is smiling with God. Because she is INNOCENT !

Do you remember when you last smile with God ?

Baby starts crawling and discovers whole house on her own and becomes happy. Baby starts walking and keep walking here and there and enjoys that. Children can enjoy playing with cardboard box. We think costly toys will bring more happiness. Because we relate happiness to money. Children don’t bother the cost until we teach them importance of money.

In playschool children are happy because for them school is a plying place with many other children. Children enjoy school until we put them into the race of study.

And slowly smiling with God in sleeping starts disappearing. We get bound in race. Race of study. Race of career. Race of status. Race of ego. Race gives fear. Fear teaches to snatch, lie, cheat. There is no room remains for Innocence .

Now we can’t get happy with the sounds of birds. We can’t enjoy playing in water. Now we don’t have friends. Because now we don’t make friendship. We only make connections to fulfil our selfishness. Connections ! Like in social network. Hundreds of names in friend list but no one knows you really.

And you cry ! I am alone ! I have too many problems ! We doubt about the existence of God. Because we can’t see God. God can be seen only by pure heart. Pure heart carries Innocence . We had lost our innocence. When we lost that connection with God ? When we realise that in this world there is no unconditional love. There is only RACE .

When I see children my heart cries to become a child again. I want to enjoy playing. I want to laugh without reason. I want to be happy on small small things. I don’t like adults world. I hate race !

Do you remember when you last smile with God ?

The Truth!

What is truth ? What we see; what we hear; what we experience; what we know or . . . . beyond that ?

I had new maid. When I saw her first time my brain said she is from different community. Hearing her accents my brain said she is from different state. These another state people comes to our city to make it more crowded. I ask her name, “Laxmi” she answered. Oh ! she is Hindu my brain said. (Laxmi is Hindu Godess of wealth )

Laxmi was excellent in her work. Neat & clean. I like her. One day I offer her tea. First she said “no”. I insisted. Then she sat down. She took cup and started whispering something. I was surprised. For two minutes devotedly she was doing that. When she finished she took a sip. I can’t stop myself asking “What was you doing ? ” “Prayer” she answered. “In our church Father teach us to pray before eating or drinking.” Oh my God ! She is Christian ! So Laxmi can be Christian !

This information was new for my brain.

After few tea meetings she open up. “We are landlords in our village” Fake ! My brain said. I asked gently, “Then why you people are doing this kind of work ? “

“Our land is in mortgage. There is no rain for 2-3 years. We can’t get anything from our fields. Our debts are increasing. If we can’t repay , we will lose our land. “

“So our mother took a decision. We decide, all of us will go to city , work hard, Earn money and will get our land back.”

Laxmi had joint family. All started working on construction site. They realised this is not enough. So they started working additional. From 9 to 5 they work on site. And before 9am and after 5pm they started different different things. Laxmi’s father started tea stall. Her mother started selling vegetables. Laxmi got maid job . She slowly discovered that in city maid job has demand. She started working in many houses. Her sister in law joined her. Her brothers also took whatever work they get.

I looked into her eyes. My brain said, there must be a pain. After all she is from rich home and doing servant’s job. So sad !

But . . . . It saw only determination in her eyes. When I meet her mother I saw same determination in her eyes. They have a Goal. My heart said they will accomplish their goal. They will get back their land.

After this experience whenever I see people from different state in my city. I don’t allow my brain to jump on conclusion. I take a pause. And ask myself, is there any story behind this ?

Storm Inside

I don’t want to fight . But where ever I go I meet aggressive persons. They quarrel. Because of them I lost my head. If I choose not to fight then also these people continue fighting. It’s tortures to be surrounded by such irritating people.

Is that your complaint? Hold on. Time to look inside.

What you have inside?

Peace or Anger ?

Love or Fear ?

Law of attraction says, “What you hold inside attracts outside.”

Inspect your self talk. From morning to night, we always recalls; How he hates me! How she insulted me! How I am not capable! How I always fail! How unlucky I am! All these negative tapes are playing again and again. In reality incidence we experience ones, by playing that film in the mind repeatedly we experience that pain thousands of time !! Cloud of anger, pain, hate becomes thicker inside our mind. It becomes so powerful that it creates a magnetic zone which attracts same kind of people. And you wonder why it happens to me ? Why can’t I avoid them ?Breath . . . . . . Calm down. You can . But first you have to resolve your inside.

  1. Be conscious about your self talk. Write down all that negative thoughts. Replace each and every sentence by positive thought.
  2. Get rid of your negativity. Don’t keep bombs of hate and anger inside you. Express it. Go to some place where you can shout, scream. If not possible get boxing sack. Pour all your anger on that. There is another simple way. Write down your anger in detail. Then tare it, burn it, flush it. You will feel big relief.
  3. Make a habit of recalling only positive events. Concentrate on happy moments of your life.
  4. Be grateful. When you start recalling happy moments you will realise you have lots of good things in your life. Say thanks for each of them.
  5. Meditate. Meditation helps to calm down your mind.
  6. Learn relaxation techniques. Your body and mind are sinced. When you relax your body, mind will automatically relax.
  7. Repeat these six things daily consciously. Within few days you can see changes in your inside. And slowly it will start affecting your outside world. You will meet peaceful good persons, situations. All fighting nature people will vanish. Ha ha ha not literally. But they will not bother you. In fact now they will avoid you. Try it. Be peaceful !

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